Bridezilla With A Difference

There’s the cliché, isn’t there, that all women turn into bridezillas in the weeks and months (and sometimes years) leading up to their weddings. They’re so fixated on getting everything just perfect that they lose all sense of proportion, reason, and decency whenever anything remotely related to the Big Day is mentioned.

I didn’t think I was doing that. In fact, I’ve been trying really hard not to.


J and I have sporadically been talking about the music that we’d like to have at various stages of our wedding and reception. It’s just as well we started early, as perhaps inevitably there have been a few differences of opinion. The movement of Bach that I’d’ve loved to have at the end of the ceremony got turned down because it “sounded like the Antiques Roadshow theme tune”*. J, on the other hand, likes The Turtles’ ‘Guide for the Married Man’. Discussions continue.

One of the classic things that couples having dancing at their reception have to decide upon is a tune for the ‘first dance’, whereupon the four left feet of the newly wedded couple are under the scrutiny of an entire hall of guests. Despite the fact that ceilidh tunes do not classically lend themselves to romantic waltzing, J and I both quite like the idea of having a first dance, but it obviously needs to be in keeping with the music that follows.

We have now booked the band for the evening. In the initial email correspondance, I asked them whether they could suggest any waltzes that they might normally play at that stage of the evening, but the question got lost among other discussions. So I got my thinking cap on, and for a long while came up with nothing… until bam, it hit me! The perfect tune, which J knows and likes too!

And at this point, I have completely, unwittingly turned into bridezilla, albeit with less conventional tastes than many. I need to be back in touch with the band. I don’t even know whether they read music (as many folk musicians don’t) nor less be comfortable with a classical arrangement, but already I have been into the Central Library in town, borrowed the appropriate score, and started an arrangement (which could just really do with a ‘cello to bulk out the bass line, and I know lots of people who play the ‘cello, and I’m sure they could put it together on the day), and I’m already clapping my hands with glee at the sheer brilliance of the plan, and I’m going to be so disappointed if things don’t come together, and can’t they just make a special effort because it would be so perfect?



*ie. was trumpet based and in a major key; if you ask me it sounds nothing like the Antiques Roadshow at all! Compare this and this.


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Jenny
    Mar 14, 2011 @ 08:19:27

    Ask them if they know the Rosa waltz. It gets played at a lot of ceilidhs I’ve been to; but that may be because a lot of ceilidhs have been called by Gordon Potts. Although I am intrigued by your plan (and I am a cellist :P)! Xx


  2. kat
    Mar 14, 2011 @ 11:41:52

    mini bridezilla aww but oddly enough if there was any area I saw you going zilla on it would be music 😛


  3. Lil
    Mar 16, 2011 @ 16:14:52

    Everyone gets to be a bridezilla about something or other!!
    Lil (from TSF)


  4. J
    Mar 16, 2011 @ 17:35:33


    1. The Bach and The Turtles were never going to be in the same place – it’s not a fair comparison. The Bach was for after the ceremony as people are signing the certificate, The Turtles for as people were arriving for the reception (along with loads of different pieces). Different contexts, different moods. I never said we should have the latter instead of the former.

    2. I’m not the only one who commented on the similarity between the Bach and Antique’s Roadshow.

    3. I think the Bach is also the wrong mood for the occassion – I think we’d want something more sedate and quiet than a trumpet fanfare after the silent worship. It would be wrong.


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