Photos, Personnel And Countdown

J and I meet with our photographer tonight! She’s only coming in after the ceremony (because taking photos etc. in a Quaker meeting is just not appropriate), and will be leaving as we start the meal (so all of the first dance shots and the like will have to be at the mercy of friends’ cameras).

I’ve sent the following list to J and he’s having a look over it. But seeing as I know there are various photo-enthusiasts on here, including at least one who has played the part of wedding photographer before… what do you think I’ve missed off?

  • Signing of the civil register
  • Quaker Meeting guests general shots
  • Couple shots (inc. photos of hands and rings?, on the awesome wooden train set in the kid’s playground?)
  • Couple with bride’s parents
  • Couple with groom’s parents
  • Couple with all parents
  • L with MOB
  • L  with FOB
  • L with parents
  • J with MOG [if J wants]
  • J with  FOG [ditto]
  • J with parents
  • L with bridesmaid
  • J with best man
  • Couple with best man and bridesmaid
  • Couple with all siblings
  • Couple with his immediate family
  • Couple with her immediate family
  • Couple with all immediate family
  • Couple with his elderly relatives [I have none left]
  • Couple with all his family
  • Couple with all her family
  • Couple with all family guests
  • Reportage-style shots of all reception guests

We’re not going for one of those everyone-who-was-at-the-entire wedding photos. They’re not quite to our taste – cheesy, a nightmare to organise, and in reality you can’t see anyone properly anyway.

But we will have made it really clear to the photographers that we want photos of everyone, not just the photogenic people. There is only one child coming to the wedding and he is neither family nor female, so hopefully that will reduce the temptation to go “Awww, look at the pretty frilly cuteness!!!” and then forget half the other guests by mistake.

The “all siblings” photo is a reference to the fact that my sole bridesmaid is my sister and J’s best man is his brother. That worked out really well, actually. We are both the eldest of three siblings, and in each case the next sibling down is of the same gender (before each having a little brother to complete the set).

In J’s case best man was an easy choice. It was either going to be his brother or his roommate from the first year at university. And in my case it was an easy choice – but if I hadn’t had my sister it would have been a complete and utter nightmare. Basically, I have a lot of close female friends but I’d struggle to name a single one as ‘best’ and the potential for politics… well, let’s not even go there. Friends who I’ve known the longest and who are like alternative little sisters? Cousins? Secondary school friends? University friends – Quaker, college, Maths? I can guarantee that whoever I’d’ve chosen, somebody would have been offended. And it’s not like the bridesmaids have an official role in a Quaker ceremony anyway. I will be walking down the (makeshift) aisle – with J.



4 days ’til we get married. I don’t think it’s sunk in yet.


5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Flix
    Aug 23, 2011 @ 19:09:59

    It looks like a fairly standard list to me. Although – do you want shots with of B/G with close friends?

    Bear in mind it might be an idea to ‘assign’ someone to gather the appropriate troops at appropriate times – someone who has a fair idea of who people will be confident enough to say “hey, you, come have your picture taken NOW”…even if those are the first words they’ve ever spoken to that person 😉 The B&G have enough to worry about and the photographer will be trying to take the photos, so having a spare runner-type can be handy – do you have someone you could utilise for that purpose? Heh.

    Also, maybe have a think about the order of photo taking so that you don’t have people hanging around or disappearing off when they’re needed for more than one photo, if possible. It rarely works out quite as smoothly as planned but hopefully you’ll get all the ones you want and you’ll look lovely and all will be well and I can’t wait to see the photos!! 🙂

    Wedding photography is the best 😀


  2. teacherface
    Aug 23, 2011 @ 19:30:22

    All I can do is smile 😀


  3. Fiddler J
    Aug 23, 2011 @ 21:58:13

    Do you want a photo of random guests signing the Quaker certificate? Just a thaught…..


  4. Lucy
    Aug 24, 2011 @ 08:25:33

    Flix – yes, we have a running order! Family are under strict instructions. There are also one or two ‘friends’ shots that I’d like but hopefully those will happen naturally and I don’t want to get into the business of being seen to be choosing some friends over others.

    teacherface – 😀

    Fiddler J – we thought about it. But I think that we decided (and J felt more strongly on this than I did) that the signing of the Quaker certificate was a sort of extension of the meeting and we didn’t want to ‘cheapen’ it by making people pose for candids.


  5. Kat
    Aug 28, 2011 @ 11:20:30

    I dont think that fact that the only child was male and not in a frilly dress stopped him featuring in a good deal of the photos! He was being far to adorable cute and generally photogenic not to be 🙂 I really look forward to seeing your album once completed coupled with a visit to C central to see the house properly OH and you two as well I suppose 😛 xx


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